Dilemma's of Human Relationships

There is nothing more profound in human existence than the process of social interaction creating relationships. In each one of us, there is a foundation of want for relationships. I am not directly essaying the initimate, heteroerotic consanguinities, but rather our connections with other people. Most people (I say most as there are those with desire for very little human contact) desire to have others in their life. Hence we have marriages, boyfriends and girlfriends, best friends, accountability partners, roommates, counselors, pastors, rabbis, doctors, lawyers, et al, that have people in such positions for others. There is no career that is made independently. In other words, no jobs in the world are created for the better good of the person doing the job; we create some type of relationship with people through our jobs.

What then can we call these relationships 'dilemmas'? What creates a dilemma with people? Let me break these down into two points:

1. Pride Dilemma
Typically, our (American) social world pushes for independence. This occasionally leaves some to feel they need no others. Some are joyed to call ourselves "non-conformists." However, there is no such. When one trys not to conform the social expectations and means neccesary to goal acheivement in any society, they believe they have started a revolution within themselves when actually, these types of behaviors have been done before. This 'pride dilemma' exhorts that man should live his life to fulfill his wants. This is okay to an extent in that man has no will to freely choose everything for himself. He must, to survive, rely on others.

2. Dependance Dilemma
Independence is not a negative connection with others. Man cannot be expected to have everything afforded to him in order to grow with others. Many times people are expected continually have relationships with others so there means necessary to human growth is based on someone else. These folks rely on others to give them their means.


What portion is these of any use? How then can I say that this is of some grave importance for people to consider about how they interact with those neighbored to them? I believe these dilemmas create several problems that inheirt dangers of honesty, integrity, love, and humility, within the 5 types of relationships.

1. Familyhood
2. Acquantice
3. Friendship
4. Courtship (dating)
5. Marriage

No human will exist without these 5 types-unless one excludes themselves from the world. Man and woman alike will experience these. With these dilemmas, I believe the reasons we have items like divorce. Tackling divorce, it is likely the man and woman either became acquantices and jumped into marriage without first stepping through the line of human interactional growth. People that get into courtships that fall into these dilemmas are susceptible to poor relationships.

What does this mean for me right now?
As a Christian, God has placed me on Earth to be pure, loving, humble, and most important, a being guided by His will. God created humans different. If there were not God, all humans- if any existed- would not be unique and diverse. Animals run off instict, humans are social beings that change ideas, norms, taboos, and activities with time. I see myself having the hopeful joy of a marriage. To achieve that, I must grow in friendship with a Christian woman. Our unique differences along with God's call, will create a desire for courtship, which is only in existence to determine if marriage is proper.

I am not seeking a worldly marriage, guided by the principles and foundations of current social norms and values. Rather, I am seeking one that symbolizes God's purpose of man and woman and to show value to how Christ loves His church.

Grace and peace be with you